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Hello families,

This motto this week is:

What have you already decided about your day?

Our thoughts and opinions about our day can influence how much we enjoy our day.  We all want to enjoy our day, yet we often have expectations about our day that are counter to what we want.  In other words, what we expect isn't what we want.  For example, if we expect a bad day, we will likely inflate the bad aspects of our day while ignoring or diminishing the positive occurrences.  We do this because we have a belief, and then we look for evidence that our belief is true.  That's why it's important to ask ourselves, "Do I want to be right about this?"  Maybe, it would be better to find reasons why today isn't bad.

"When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be." ~ Mandy Hale


Knowing the influence our expectations can have on our day, the first thing we can do is identify and eliminate negative expectations.  It makes no sense to search for something we don't want to have, so it's equally absurd to let our brain try to find evidence to support a belief that isn't helpful.  When we realize that we have negative expectations, we can replace them with more neutral, helpful ones.

How do we do that?  If we have a negative belief, such as today will be boring and replace it with today will be fantastic, we likely won't believe it.  Instead, start by making minor adjustments to your thinking, such as maybe today will be boring, but maybe it won't.  While it doesn't sound like much of an improvement, it does make room for a better experience to happen.  Remember, we often end up where we see ourselves going.  Why not imagine a better destination?

Give it a try because you deserve a great day.


Be good to yourself,

Danna Evans
All Things E.Q.


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